Wake Up and Learn To Love Yourself!- #TerrificTuesday
|By- Janvi Merchant|
This #TerrificTuesday, let’s start with the basics of understanding what exactly is self-love? What do you mean when we say “self-love”? Why is it necessary?
Majority of the crowd mistakenly believe that self-love is equivalent to narcissism or having a big ego which is so not true, the concept of self-love is an overblown theory and they often ignore its importance. People aspire to be perfect and perfectionism is considered a greater asset or attribute than self-love. Self-love means having a high regard for yourself, your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. When you love yourself you accept all your small weaknesses and flaws, you glow from the inside, you feel worthy, deserving, valuable. The more you love who you are the less you seek validation and approval.
Why is self-love so important? The concept of self-compassion and self-care is needed mostly for those who work too hard and are always on the path of achieving perfection. Most of the times when we’re being too hard on ourselves, we do it because of the desire get everything done right at all times.
This entails a lot of self-criticism, and that persecutory inner voice constantly telling us how we could’ve done things in a better way is a hallmark of perfection. Studies have proven that perfectionists are at a higher risk of illness, both physical and mental and that self-love and compassion can free us from its grip.
These superpowers develop by loving yourself!
1. By using mindful practices and meditation, you accept yourself and truly value your existence. Exercising and various extracurricular activities can reduce stress and increase your stamina, Mindfulness means that you are conscious of the present moment, and you love yourself, regardless of the chaos that might surround you.
2. With mindfulness you start to care about yourself and try to satisfy your physical, psychological and spiritual needs. You take better care of yourself finding health and peace, if your needs are met you get work done more efficiently.
3. As you get work done for others, you develop respect for yourself as a valuable individual to the society. Both independency and cultural respect is important, you see yourself as a person who has a lot to offer to the community.
4. These changes push you towards maturity and growth, some important functions of a healthy well-being. You find yourself taking up new challenges, getting out of your comfort zone, finding your true talents.
5. With maturity comes competence, which means that you can increase your capacity to accomplish difficult task, you are able to do more, perform better than the past. These tasks would not always be easy but it’s your ability to perform competently.
6. After proving to yourself that you can act competently, you develop self-confidence, a power that can push your abilities to such higher extent when faced by any obstacles. Confidence enables you to encounter greater independence and the power to act.
7. Competence and confidence bring in security for you and your loved ones, a necessity for a happy adult life. You feel secure and confident knowing that you can provide for your family.
8. You feel empathy for others in your community, a tremendous power to sense and feel the emotions of others. You further connect with people around because you understand them better.
9. When you feel the emotions of others, their pains struggles pleasures, you learn how to love others. Empathy is like a magnet drawing you closer to people, making it possible to truly love and care for them.
10. Lastly, by directing love for yourself and others you find the secret that most humans long for. Loving and serving others gives you happiness and a sense of fulfilment. At this point everything is achievable to accomplish anything you desire.
Modern society is shaped in such a way that we are bound to compete against the world, sometimes even ourselves. We try to be a better version of ourselves; as a consequence we end up being way too hard on ourselves without even realising it.
So stop underestimating yourself, take a pause breathe in and out and remember you are allowed to be a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously!
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